Your husband: He's your best friend, your soulmate, your partner for life. But sometimes, you look at him and think, "Who is this guy?!" Here are seven activities to help you and your hubby reconnect and reignite your friendship.
The drift
Drifting happens to all couples, no matter how long you have been
married, simply as a consequence of the hustle and bustle of life. So
first things first: You have to make time for each other and nurture
your friendship foundation during that time. Focusing on those things
that you really like about each other and continuing the never-ending
process of getting to know each other as you individually evolve will
keep you engaged for the long haul.
On separate pieces of paper, write down five to 10 life dreams
independently. Once you have completed your lists, see if you can guess
the other's dreams. You might be surprised to find out that you never
knew your husband wanted to learn Japanese or have another child.
Share a blast from your past
Sharing memories is a beautiful way to bond with your husband, and
many couples don't do this as a natural way of being with one another.
For this activity, fill up a hat with small pieces of paper on which
you've written a year from the time you two were 5 years old until
present day. Alternate drawing from the hat and sharing a memory -- be
it fond, embarrassing, tragic or otherwise -- from that particular year.
Sex cleanse
While sex can be a fabulous way to bring a couple closer together, not
having sex can be, too! A deliberate sex fast can show you what your
relationship looks like without physical intimacy, meaning it has to
rely on emotional, mental and spirtiual intimacy. Don't worry: You can
see all that you need to see in just a couple of weeks. And when I say
"no sex," it doesn't mean you can't engage in other fun stuff.
Have a best/worst swap
Nightly, be it just before bed or beforehand (at dinner, if you are
kidless or if your kids will give you 10 minutes to yourselves before
dinner), share the best and most challenging parts of your day. Be sure
to high-five your honey for his accomplishments, no matter how small,
and empathize with any rough patches.
Play a trivia game
On index cards, each of you creates 25 trivia questions about yourselves. Topics might include favorite song, least favorite relative, biggest pet peeve, biggest turn on, blood type, etc. Write
the question on the front and the answer on the back. Then, play the
game as usual using points, candy, cash or whatever other fun currency
you desire. The one with the most correct answers is off the hook for a
week of dishes.
Engage in each other's interests
Friendship relies on commonalities. And while it is certainly healthy
to have independent pursuits, it is important to be interested in each
other's passions. Become knowledgeable on your honey's favorite pastime,
be it fine wines or football, so that he not only feels comfortable
sharing this love with you, but that you also can feed his energy when
he does.
Take up an interest together
Find a new hobby that neither one of you has ever explored but in
which you share a mutual interest. This could be something you engage in
together, such as an intramural sports team, a book club or a cooking
class, or something you try out on your own, such as amateur photography
or furniture refinishing. Experiencing something new together will
allow you to see each in a fresh way as well as give you two something
that is uniquely yours amid the hustle and bustle of life that can pull
in you opposite directions.
Share a blast from your past
Sex cleanse
Have a best/worst swap
Play a trivia game
Engage in each other's interests
Take up an interest together
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